At the beginning of the year we all have the urge to make changes. Most of us start thinking about the past year, what we’ve achieved and where we are in life. I know I do that quite a lot. I also know some people have that constant fear of failing and not being where they thought they would be. A lot of people compare themselves to others and wonder why they don’t have it all figured out.
SPOLER ALERT: You don’t have to have it all figured out, and here’s why:
Do you spend your time going over situations over and over again asking yourself “why” and worrying about different scenarios? Do you find it difficult to actually make a decision? Do you worry about the small details and panic under pressure because you don’t have the time to go through everything the way you would want to? If so, you are probably an overthinker – like me.
The truth is overthinking will cause your stress levels to rise – you will constantly be tired of worrying and you will create problems that weren’t even there in the first place. It will stop you from doing things because you think about all the possible outcomes and you prefer not to take the risk. It will eat you from the inside.
The bad news is it’s not an easy thing to get rid of, especially if you’ve been doing it all your life. The good news? There are a few things you can do to have control over it – it takes time but it is possible. Here are a few things I’ve been doing:
I’ll admit – I’m the kind of person that is scared of change. In fact, I tend to think I’m not ready for it and that the consequences might be devastating. But the truth is I have gone through plenty of changes in my life and I don’t regret any of them. Nothing devastating happened and my life didn’t turn upside down – I made it.
Now change is unavoidable but I think the hardest change is when it is not forced upon you but when it is actually up to you. When you are unhappy and know you can change but are too afraid to. There are two options: you can either stand there and do nothing or change! So, after thinking about what advice I would give to anyone who feels stuck but doesn’t have the strength to change, I came up with this: