Do you spend your time going over situations over and over again asking yourself “why” and worrying about different scenarios? Do you find it difficult to actually make a decision? Do you worry about the small details and panic under pressure because you don’t have the time to go through everything the way you would want to? If so, you are probably an overthinker – like me.
The truth is overthinking will cause your stress levels to rise – you will constantly be tired of worrying and you will create problems that weren’t even there in the first place. It will stop you from doing things because you think about all the possible outcomes and you prefer not to take the risk. It will eat you from the inside.
The bad news is it’s not an easy thing to get rid of, especially if you’ve been doing it all your life. The good news? There are a few things you can do to have control over it – it takes time but it is possible. Here are a few things I’ve been doing:
1. Stop thinking about worst case scenarios
Whenever I have to do something I start worrying about what could go wrong. This happens especially if this is something new or something I’ve never tried. STOP. When you are trying to make a decision avoid thinking about all the worst things that could happen and focus on realistic outcomes. The truth is most of the “worst things that could happen” are not even real! They will probably never happen and are a product of your very creative imagination. Be realistic and focus on what is actually plausible – this will bring your anxiety levels down.
2. Be more positive
Think about all the positive things that could happen instead. I believe overthinking is linked to being negative and this is a major reason for why we dwell on things – because we think about all the negative outcomes. It will not be that bad! Focus on the positive. This will be hard but it does work if you start doing it regularly.
3. Keep busy
Whenever you see you’re starting to think about the same thing again and again find something else to do. The more things you do to distract yourself the the less you will focus on the situation. This will also help with anxiety levels. Get hobbies that will prevent you from being constantly anxious (like going to the gym for example).
4. Let it go
It’s easy to get obsessed by a situation if you are an overthinker. Just let it go, it isn’t worth it. Your brain is playing a trick on you and makes you worry even though everyone else is calm. Think about other things and just LET IT GO.
Lots of love,