As we get older our views, ideas and priorities change and we realise life has taught us wonderful lessons. Now I’m not an expert on anything (far from it!) and I’m not exactly old to tell you my hundreds of years of experience. However, I have lived my fair share of adventures, have been heart broken, scared, overwhelmed, have fallen in love, found a soul mate, been disappointed, have had to deal with the awkwardest moments and, in a nutshell, been through good and bad times (like everyone). All my experiences have made me the person I am today and I hope to learn more and more lessons as time goes by.
So I’ve made a list of what I believe are the most relevant lessons I’ve learned so far and decided to share them with you *happy dance*. I actually had like 20 lessons when I started writing this but decided to keep it simple. Hope you enjoy:
Be prepared for change and embrace it. I used to make so many plans and believed that by the age of 25 I would be working in my field, be rich and have my own house in my own country. As if! I do have a great job and I love living in Brighton but none of it was what I had planned 5 years ago (and I don’t own my own house!). The point is life has it’s surprises stored for you – some are wonderful and some not so wonderful. I would have never guessed that I would be where I am today. And I like that. Don’t get upset when things don’t go according to plan – something better might be just around the corner.
We have the tendency to compare ourselves to other people and easily criticize attitudes, behaviours and life choices. The truth is, you can never know what that person has been through, what situation they are facing at the moment or what is affecting them. In fact, you have no idea. Every person is different and reacts differently to things – some might be more emotive and some might be more rational. I learned that it is best not to assume or judge – always expect the best from people!
I used to think that I would get out of university with all the tools I needed succeed in life. Not true. University taught me a lot, that much is true. It taught me to be disciplined, to work hard and many other skills relevant for my area of studies. However, it didn’t teach me how to succeed in life in general. Don’t think you will leave university as the most knowledgeable person ever – you will not. You still have a lot to learn. There’s no subject called “common sense”, “how to find your passion” or “how to love yourself”. That you learn throughout life!
I know I mention this a lot but it’s so true and perhaps the most valuable lesson I’ve learned. No matter how enlightened someone might be they are still human. Never forget that.
Remember when you used to get really upset when someone told you something you didn’t like? Well, I learned that these things affected me less and less as I got older. It ‘s never nice to receive criticism or to have to hear the unwanted truth but you learn to filter what’s important and what is not. You learn not to be affected and you realise that your opinion matters as well.
What I mean by this is if you give more, you will get more. I believe that you should treat people the way you would like to be treated and that what you give is (usually) what you get in return. I’ve seen karma do it’s work many times and this made me believe that it is a thing. So, give some love and kindness and you might just get that thrown right back at you!
You will never be happy in a relationship if you are not happy with yourself first. I wrote a previous post about this – check it out here. Bottom line is, if you don’t love yourself and if you don’t believe in yourself, no one will.
I don’t mean only at work or at school. I learned that creating mental deadlines works wonders in every aspect. Create deadlines to achieve your goals and it is more likely you will achieve them. In fact, create deadlines to achieve anything, big or small. You will get more things done and accomplish things quicker.
You will always be afraid when you try to step out of your comfort zone and that is fine. Having the courage to do something doesn’t mean you are no longer afraid, it means you had the strength to deal with it. I’ve been afraid many times and there is no better feeling than dealing with what you are afraid. So don’t be afraid to be afraid!
Don’t get pressured into doing things you don’t want to do and don’t stop yourself from doing things you truly love because of someone else. If it doesn’t feel right to you, don’t do it. And if it feels great, fight for it. I learned that being true to myself is extremely important and I always feel better when I do something that is true to me.
One last thing…
Happiness is found within the actual journey ♥
Have a lovely Friday my lovelies!